Saturday, 31 March 2012


'If you call someone a dick it's like trying to give them a paper cut with the rubber on the end of a pencil; if you call someone a cunt it's like stabbing them in the eye with the lead of that very same pencil.'

 Last week I ordered my first zine in ages- Issue 1 of Cunt. The perky little zine, shipped from Australia, consists of the history of the word Cunt, some merkins as well as pug comedy duo Pearl and Dolly.

The magazine also begins with a brilliant introduction pointing out a word dirtier than 'cunt' - feminist- 'it conjures images of bitter man-haters, feral women with saggy tits and picket signs, butch lesbians with cropped coifs and a penchant for ball sports.'

 The contributers to the magazine include Dana Livne, Jodi De Vanier, Katie Turnball, Lisa Varcoe, Lola Williams and editor Shira Livine. The zine might be short but it is full of quirkiness and pure feminine power and I cannot wait for the next issue!

'To me a feminist is a person who is interested in women's rights- whether they have a cunt or a cock- so that should be everyone.'- Shira Livine

God bless the Cunt.

Buy Cunt Zine on Etsy

Thursday, 29 March 2012

History of the Breast Enlargements

"In the early days, we only had four choices or sizes - large, medium, small and petite. Now we have over 450 choices," says Biggs

Today marks the 50th year since the first breast enlargement operation. The BBC have written a brief history of the surgery, which is now second most common cosmetic surgery after Liposuction.
Did Monroe have surgery?


Monday, 26 March 2012

Fuck Lips

Spontaneous make after browsing a few pages into a magazine. 

Top:Front of design
Below: Back of design (reversed)
Will be sending off for Art House Coop project later in the week.

Body Acceptance Crusader

I am not sure how I came across this blog or even how I came to find Felicity on Twitter. But she is beyond passionate about Body Confidence and providing the right attitude that we all should have towards our bodies.

Felicity, who blog is titled The Life and Loves of a Girl Called Felicity, has been blogging manically since the New Year. In her posts, she has spoken honestly and openly about her own past and dealing with body issue, as well as passionately ranting about her feelings towards our general attitudes of our bodies.

In the last few days, I have been caught up with every typed word and find her blogging to be very much of similar feelings and ideas. The difference with her blog to mine, aside from my art, is that she comes with experience of suffering from low body image and a history of anorexia. Her open honesty and passionate rants just shows how much people want a change in our society with how we view our bodies and how easily influenced we are by the people and media that surround us.

Some of her key blogs which I think are worth a read/look include:

Something I have always wanted to research and blog about.

To be read by everyone

Very open and emotional piece about dealing with miscarriage caused by body health

Help and guide to love your body.

I could continue to list all her interesting posts, but it would just be easier for you to go have a look yourselves. I personally invited Felicity to join my project and am glad she is on board. I might have also influenced her to join #lovingmytum campaign that @BodyGossipRuth started at the beginning of March by posting pictures of her tum(and bum!) on twitter!

Keep loving your body.

Body Acceptance Crusader Blog by Felicity
Felicity on Twitter

Western Woman Are Brain Washed

A video made in Canada by the Dove team. The video speaks for itself.

Sunday, 25 March 2012

How To Cure A Feminist

As seen in a 2003 issue Maxim magazine advertizing cigars, it is very amusing.

Boom Bang Burlesque

Who needs strip joints when you have burlesque!

Last night I went to a Swing Night in Southampton, where entertainment included three Burlesque dancers as well as swing band Black Kat Boppers (YouTube them, they are great). I have been excited about this for weeks as I have never seen burlesque dancers before and have been wanting to for years!

The three dancers for the evening were Kiki Kaboom, Kitty Bang Bangs and Amber Topez. All three performed throughout the evening and it was beyond entertaining. I was fully aware of what burlesque entailed, but had no idea how fabulously fun and characterized it would be.

Kiki Kaboom (pic sourced from Google)

Kiki Kaboom (my personal favourite of the evening) was out first, dressed as a dainty geek in thick rimmed glasses, and undressed over the course of 7minutes, with great sense of character and fun dancing to You're So Square by Buddy Holly and Super Freak by Rick James. Her other character, an American blonde from the south, sang innocently of her pussycat, all amusing innuendos of course. 

The themed costumes throughout the evening were glittering, full of character and of course minimal, with soundtracks to emphasize their acts. The women were all cheered along as they undressed and woo-d the crowed dancing, signing and swinging their nipple tassels. Not to mention Kitty Bang Bangs fire throwing act, her appropriately place dollar bill in her Las Vegas act and feisty Amber Topez as sexy Jessica Rabbit.

 These ladies are proud to tease their way down to pants and their glittery nipple tassels, all for entertainment purposes. And watching them strip down so confidently, with seeing their natural womanly bodies shake and wobble whilst full of so much zest makes me want to do it too. Watch this space.

Kiki Kaboom Twitter
Amber Topaz Twitter

Love My Bones

In relation to the earlier blog post about Israel's new law, as well as the BBC article about the discrimination that we have imposed on skinny women, I felt it was right to post this image. 
It was posted on Facebook by a friend and seemed appropriate for my work.

Love yourself for your natural and healthy body.

Israel Bans Underweight Models - my blog post
Are Thin Women the Enemy - my blog post.

Bare Faced Blanchett

When was the last time you saw a magazine cover that had someone that had not been digitally touched up? The cover of the March/April issue of Intelligent Life was gracefully filled by actress and mother of three Cate Blanchett, air-brush free.

The Oscar-winner has all the natural nooks and crannies of any busy lady of 42. As a mother of three and busy actress on and off stage, you would expect nothing more than signs of late nights and hard work. What makes this a fantastic cover is the minimal make-up and under-styled hair- plain, simple and most importantly, natural. Is it good to see an honest reputation of an older woman looks like in the media. We are exposed to so many photos that have been retouched to hide wrinkles and dark eyes, that I imagine there is a generation that do realize that you can grow old gracefully and beautifully. If we all panicked about how we were going to wrinkle and sag, we would all end up looking like Joan Rivers.

And the irony of Intelligent Life using Cate as their model for their 20th issue is that she has been interviewed and glamorously photographed for Harper's Bazaar's UK April issue. Of course the poor woman has been dolled up beautifully and is quite the contrast to her natural pose, in her own leather jacket, for Intelligent Life.
One step forward, three steps back.

We will see other magazines follow suit to show of natural beauty and age? I highly doubt it will happen any time soon. People are far too self conscious of their cracks and dark circles to be seen for their natural beauty.


Are Thin Women the Enemy?

A BBC article this week responded to the Israel law banning unhealthy models from being used on catwalks and in adverts (see blog post).
The article is interesting in what it debates, the fact that we are always discriminating against models who we believe are unnaturally unhealthy. The title of the article seems misleading somewhat, suggesting that we must have some hatred towards thin women. That is not the case at all.

The problem that some people and organizations have towards ultra-skinny models is the fact that only skinny women are predominately portrayed in the media (not the models fault) and that this can suggest to some vulnerable minds that this is how they must look. This is not helped by the high amounts of airbrushing that happens in so many printed adverts and media.

Although I personally agree with the ban imposed by Israel to help monitor the health of the models, I think what we need to see happen in the media, is a better portrayal of women of all sizes and shapes. In no way do magazines help either, constantly criticizing celebrities for their weight gain or loss. The constant bitching of other people's bodies does not give anyone a healthy mind frame on how to deal with body image.

The only advert that I can think has used a variety of sized women is Dove, where it positively shows women in their underwear loving their bodies, of all shapes. If we saw more of this on our tv's and in our glossy magazines, maybe we could come to terms with our bodies and other peoples too.

"There are people who are naturally thin and people who are naturally heavier, and we need to accept a diversity," Ms Mysko says."That's the goal: not to define one body type as attractive and another type as unattractive." 

Thursday, 22 March 2012

Mister Titspervert

'Show a little cleavage and you are likely to be gawped at, no matter where — or who — you are,' Charlotte Kemp.

Recently, BBC Breakfast presenter Susanna Reid came under criticism from viewers for showing a little too much breast. The image above shows Susanna on one such occasion where you can see a bit of breast definition. But what are all the complaints about? She is dressed appropriately and happens to have a large bust that creates a bit of cleavage with her top. Why complain- She isn't purposely dressed to seduce, or even arose morning viewers. She is wearing usual formal presenter attire that makes her look appropriate for her job. I would be shocked if she was dressed like similar to that of what I have seen on a Friday or Saturday night stumbling across the cobbles of Southampton; short skirts and breasts bursting at the seam.

For a woman well endowed in the chest area, I bet she has struggled in similar ways to Charlotte Kemp, who has written about her own experiences of having a busty chest and being seen only for her DD's (Article). The article from today's Daily Mail is amusing as it is informative about how she feels men view and treat her as a well endowed woman.

'..why should clever girls be ashamed of their curves?'

I am fortunate that I do not have to suffer with large breasticles, but I am well aware that I have had eye-to-breast conversations with men in the past because of the clothing I have worn. It is never intentional to distract a man with a flash of breasticle, but these things happen with the wrong choice of clothing. In no way do I think that all men are so easily distracted by a womans bust, but I know that every now and then, I have a good gawp to, but this never makes me think less of the woman.

Long Suffering DD Cup Wearer Sympathises.  by Charlotte Kemp, Daily Mail.

Wednesday, 21 March 2012

Patch Project

The Female Figure: Patch Project 
Today I have finally got going on some ideas I have had brewing for some time and word has started spreading.

With my research into women, and all things related, I am keen to promote and go further in depth into body image. To do this, I am looking for participants of all ages and backgrounds to send me a 4inch fabric patch to express their thoughts and feelings about their body image. I have already collected some patches, so the project is on it's way and making haste with getting more people participating and talking body image.

Alongside the patches, I am also looking to collect stories from participants- email or post me your experiences. I want to collect thoughts, ideas and the journey that women and men go through with their body. This is for everyone, however uncreative you think are! Share with others- sisters, brothers, mothers, aunts, uncles, friends, colleagues etc!

The brief for the project is on my main website , downloadable as a PDF. Spread word amongst all female acquaintances: the more patches and stories, the better!

Peggy Olson: Feminist Icon

Whilst watching a lovely Mad Men paraody featuring Muppets on, I came across a wonderful article by Lucy Mangan discussing key character Peggy Olson (played by Elizabeth Moss) and why she is makes a great feminist Icon.

I was a late comer to Mad Men on BBC4, having only seen Season 3 & 4, but thoroughly enjoying 60's set drama. The series is set in an advertising agency and young Peggy, in the image above, starts in season one as a secretary to Don, womanizer and often swigging out of a glass at the end of the day. By season 4, Peggy is a copywriter for the company and establishing herself as a good employee after fighting endless sexism with a lack of support from others. The article by Lucy is fabulous and really hits a nail on the head. It is women like Peggy that makes me proud to be a woman- women who fight for themselves, for their own voice and independence (See Why is it so Great to be a Woman? blog post).

The key women in Mad Men, L-R: Betty, the housewife wanting more from life. Joan, working the system, using sexuality as she goes. Peggy, the striving career girl.
Peggy might only be a fictional character, but she stands strong in representing women who have tried hard to work equally among men.

"I think she represents what feminism is really about: equal opportunities, being respected and being heard." 
Elizabeth Moss (Actress)

 Lucy's article is a real salute to a great female role.

Peggy Olson Feminist Icon by Lucy Mangan at
Elizabeth Moss Interview at The

Underweight Models Banned

This morning came news that underweight models were banned from catwalks and adverts - hurrah, what a great thing to hear. But this first ever ban has been passed in only the one country- Israel.

The government have enforced the ban by using the body mass index to determine if the malnutrition is acceptable; anywhere below 18.5 would be an indication of malnutrition. This is a great move for the model industry where there has been a big change in attitude world wide in the last few years. Mark Fast used 'plus size' models - size 12 and 14 - in his Fall 2009 catwalk show to encourage the use of natural body shape (Mark Fast Blog Post) whilst only last week H&M were heavily critized for their use of a corpse-like model (H&M Corpse Blog Post). Whilst there are people trying to make a change in the fashion industry, there always seems to be people holding back. 

Kate Moss' BMI would mean she wouldn't be seen in Israel.

The use of ultra-skinny models in catwalks has been 'accused of abetting eating disorders by glamorising extreme thinness', and the government in Israel are hoping the law will help cut down the numbers of people suffering with anorexia and bulimia. It is also hoping to raise awareness with the use of digital airbrushing and other skills to enhance the bodies of models in adverts.
 The effects of adverts and media images can be unknown to many, however even writing this reminds me of young girls featured on Gok Wans The Naked Truth. Paige,15, was inspired by constant stream of images of skinny woman and was obsessed about her thighs touching when so many images where models legs weren't touching.(see Thinspiration Blog Post). It is young people like page who are naive and easily influenced by what the media are presenting, which is reason enough to follow Israels good example.

Of course, the use of BMI is questionable when it would also suggest that Brad Pitt and George Clooney are obese. But regular medical checks, similar to Israels procedures of having a medical report in the last three months, would be a logical and simple way to regulate the health of the models.

Apparently UK and USA governments are watching how this law pans out, with no real laws on health within the modeling world, only guidelines for advertisers and designers.


Sunday, 18 March 2012

'Give It To Your Woman, It's Her Job'

Earlier this month, Emma Barnett went to go tidy up her partners trousers off the floor when she noticed the washing label inside, of which it she posted on Twitter and caused an unexpected wild response.

The infamous twittered picture.
The trousers in question are from discounted men's clothing store Madhouse and sparked a major 'sexist' discussion worldwide. The jibe in question is the suggestion made that if one cannot follow the instructions to clean the trousers, you should 'GIVE IT TO YOUR WOMAN, IT'S HER JOB' And yes, it was in capital lettering so you could not miss it. 

Personally, I found it fairly amusing and just a bit of harmless banter, which has been repeated by a few ladies I have shown it to. But that is not what Emma Barnett thought. In her follow up article she wrote for the Telegraph post-tweeting the picture, she discussed the problems with the sexist remark. 

For her, it was more than just a small joke. It was another bit of sexist 'banter' that continues to make fun of the female race. And she is right on some levels. It is another small gesture to women to mock our traditional and slightly outdated position in society- in the home as the slave of our husband and children. And she is right when pointing out that is written in such a way it is a demand, that mocks the development of women in modern society over the last 150 years.

The comments that she received obviously varied from the anger of people wanting to boycott the brand to men telling her to lighten up and not to get her knickers in a twist. I stand in a position that I am open minded enough to see this as banter, however the key point of her article strikes me; the 'banter' of the message is still sexist and belittles women. As much as we get angry, try and stop people making sexist jokes or remarks, the fact is that it will always exist. Woman have held a unique and defining history which is easy to mock, especially being the inferior gender for so long. As long as there remains differences and unique qualities between people of the human race there will be discriminate remarks whether it is about gender, race, sexuality, religion, appearance, physicality and so on.

Sexist Trousers are Below The Belt  Emma Barnett at Telegraph
Sexist Trousers cause Twitter Row Follow up by Emma Barnett at Telegraph

Gorilla Legs.

A little bit of Sunday musings,found whilst browsing through the internet, and it amused me especially as I personally find the effort of shaving just too much most of the time.

It also reminded me of a piece I have previously blogged about Natalya Lobanova last September, which still amuses me.

Corpse Model

Following up from my last blog about models, another article from this week, addressing the appearance of models in the media. Somehow I missed this, but it is quite disturbing what is happening. 

H&M have used popular model Aymeline Valade to show off their latest collection, however her 'very unwell, almost corpse-like' body caused quite a stir. People were shocked at her gaunt appearance, especially when the brand is aimed at a young audience.

It is quite sad that H&M claim that 'we do not work with models who are significantly underweight', however they certainly don't use models who are obviously healthy, such as those women used in the Dove campaigns dancing around in their underwear.

And this isn't the first time that H&M have caused a stir with use of their models. Last year, a television advert showing a female in a coat in heels was complained about 9 times to ASA as the model looked 'unhealthily thin'. The image below is a shot from the advert, and personally I find it a little hard to look at, however you have to take into account the over-sized coat that slims her more so.

The backlash from the H&M collection previews just shows that people even in the fashion industry are realizing that the use of ultra skinny models is not acceptable in a society where media plays just an influential role. It is a shame that H&M don't realize their target market are easily influenced and naive to these images. They should take on board the rise in the natural sized role models like Adele, Kate Winslet and Christina Hendricks.


Saturday, 17 March 2012

Sexualization, Models and Transgender

Another manic week, with a few interesting articles cropping up that really interested me.

Sexualization of Girls

From the Guardian last weekend, four readers share their views on the sexualiation of young women, not to mention the comments after the article too. One view comes from a ex-model whilst another mentions the f-word; feminism.

Model Agencies; One of These Girls is Too Fat

A very old article from 1996, but still rings true today. The article discusses the issues of hiring ultra skinny women, who would be seen by many in adverts and other media. Some model agencies are making changes to adapt to a more diverse range of women but there is still an unfair representation of different sized women in the media. A plus size is still considered anything above a size 10!

One of These Girls is too Fat from The Independent

Tragic End of the Boy Who was Brought Up a Girl

This article is nearly four years old and addresses the issues to do with trans-gender and early sex change. In 1966, David was taken for a routine circumcision which ended with his penis being burnt and falling off. At the age of one, his parents decided to meet John Money, an author on many books about human sexuality, who convinced them that it would be best for David to become a girl. The story is touching with the journey he went through including steady counseling, another sex change and becoming a study case for Moneys research. I find it hard to think that David's life changed all because of an accident in a routine operation and a decision made by his parents to attempt to bring him up as a girl.
With sex-change and transgender fighting off the taboo label, it is easier now to understand his journey and how even environmental factors won't change how a person feels about their body and identity.

Thursday, 15 March 2012

Why is it so great to be a Woman?

Last Thursday it was International Women's week. During the day, whilst browsing through Twitter, I saw the odd comment that was anti-IWD. People were commenting about why make such a fuss, men demanding their own day (19th November fellas, not to mention Steak and Blowjob day yesterday) as well as the typical sexist banter of getting us women back in the kitchen. But it did make me curious, why is it so great to be a woman? And yes, it has taken me a week to give it a real good ponder to come up with something that is worth blogging and arguing.
There are many depths to why it is great to be a woman. My first thought, that I am ashamed to admit, is that we get to wear pretty dresses. It is such a petty and disgustingly typical girly thing to say but that was my honest first thought. Woman are blessed with thousands of brands offering so much choice in clothing, beauty products and accessories, and not to mention the pressure of having to look perfect for our man/potential man. As much as I enjoy my dresses,that certainly isn't THE perk of why I enjoy being a woman. I could easily enjoy these perks as a man. I concluded fairly quick that being a woman was more than the clothes I wore.
I am a great appreciator of the female figure, for there is no denying that anatomically, the woman is a beautiful being; waist, hips and, of course, breasts. Celebrated over the years in many paintings, photographs and even in films, the female body is temple that has been worshiped for thousands of years across many cultures. I have nothing against the male figure, but there is something unique and beautiful about the curves of the female figure. Perhaps it is the motherly and childbearing body structure that defines us from the male figure, where the female body adapts to the changes over the years. As humans, we all struggle with the changes like gravity, old age and health problems, but this doesn't stop the female body from being anything less than beautiful at any age. And yet, the beauty of my female body doesn't quite define all of my pride.

After a lot of pondering on this matter for the last week,it hit me when reflecting on my research; It is great to be a woman because women have fought our way to be where we are today. Women have battled for their right to votes, freedom and their voice for more than a century. I believe that many women of today take their place in society for granted as life for women is so much easier. So many decades have passed since women were restricted in what they could say and do- jobs only available in the factory from a young age or looking after children, not being able to vote on the same terms as men until 1918(over 30's)/1928(over 21's) and no female doctor until 1865 where even then Britain's medical board were reluctant to accept her to practice. Women stood up for their rights in the 18th century whilst working in cotton factories to gain fairer pay, not to mention conditions. This is where the fight for equality really began to show amongst everyday life, and their determination was unstoppable.
Since then, many women have passed through history standing up for themselves as a woman and achieving great success; suffragettes and suffragists, Florence Nightingale (Lady with the Hammer), Marie Curie, Amelia Earhart, Guerrilla Girls, Indira Gandhi, Billie Jean King, Mother Teresa, Sally Ride, and Rosa Parks to name but a few. These are women who have changed history and attitudes in society who we should thank for being so bold, brave and passionate for being a woman. 
The problem which makes being a man so boring is that they have had life much easier over the years; men have had their place in society determined as the leader, the breadwinner, the educated, the voice. The history of the man reads dull in comparison to the militant suffragettes and every other determined woman to fight for themselves and for equality. I am proud to be a woman because of these women with determination to fight against men to be seen as equals and not simply as wives and mothers.
International Women's Day is but the one day a year we should take to remember and thank the women who made a difference for allowing woman to be where they are today- free. And we should recognise that in some places around the world, they are still fighting for equality as a human, let alone as a woman.

Sunday, 11 March 2012

There is One Thing To Be Said About The Shy Girl, At Least She Is Not Spoilt

This weekend I was treated with another couple of boxes of goodies from my mothers friend. The box was filled with fabric, zips, endless poppers and paperwork. Amongst this were these beautiful vintage patterns and magazines including The Fourth Book of Hows, Woman's Weekly (1956), ABC of Smocking and Gauging and an amazing The Lady's World which is dated January 1912! I behold a magazine dated over a 100 years ago. I am very taken with these goodies and am delicately handling them as I find some amazing illustrations, typography and adverts. They really don't make them like they used to.

 My new magazine collection.

Woman's Weekly, dated 1956 (Left), and The Lady's World Fancy Workbook, dated Jan 1912 (Right).

Inside Woman's Weekly.

Wednesday, 7 March 2012

Knitting Bits.

Thought I would just show off the bits of knitting I have been experimenting with( and show I am creatively active still). Also a little snippet of something which shall be revealed another day.

If anyone wishes to teach me more than just knitting squares of multiple colours, please feel free to email me!

Diet, Dating, Vorderman and Beards.

This week, I have noticed a few interesting bits coming up in the Daily Mail which I wanted to share. 

Is This The Most Extreme Diet Ever?

"...for ten days at a time, a patented liquid formula made up of protein and nutrients is dripped directly into the stomach via a plastic tube that goes up the patient’s nose and is taped on to their face."

 Disgusting and totally unnecessary. It bascially teaches the body to starve in a controlled environment! I am a MASSIVE lover of food, and who really has the time to hook up to these machines 24/7. What happened to enjoying the flavours and textures of good food: enjoying a medium-raw moist chewy steak or a creamy korma or even some smooth mash potato! I could never participate in such extreme measures!

The Perfect Outfit for a Date

O... Dear... Lord. According to experts, there is a certain way to look on a date to make you succeed and I would thoroughly like to know how these 'experts' determined these rules. At the same time, I am a single lady who has advised a few friends recently and I seem to break a lot of these rules...
And these rules are:

Be a Lady in Red
 Red is a sexual colour they claim. Well of course it is, but it is also for danger, blood and stop. Interpret it how you want, but wear whatever you feel comfortable in and just avoid wearing florescent colours on a date.

Forget the Fringe
 Fringes make you look demanding apparently... Bullshit.

Show 40% Flesh
 Legs or chest, you decide. But apparently a scoop neck with 3/4 length sleeves is best... Bullshit.

Don't wear the Trousers
Again, wear what the hell you want but apparently skirt or dress makes you look more confident and successful... Surely it is just more feminine and men dig a women in a pretty dress?

Walk Tall
 No one likes a sloucher.

Accentuate Your Curves
 Apparently you should have an ideal waist-hip ratio...blah blah blah, embrace your body and wear what you like that compliments your figure.Win.

Ditch the Leggings
 No one likes leggings. They should all be burnt in a mass banning, along with 'fashionable' harem pants and Uggs. No one likes it if your wearing leggings and your top does not cover your bum and we can all see your knickers.

Reveal your Neck
 'The neck is an erogenous zone.' Apparently men are attracted to women with a bit of flesh on show(as discussed before) but too much will put them off.. How much neck is too much/too little! Bizarre rule that has to coincide with showing 40% flesh.

Wake Up your Make Up.
Lots of details on this one. One basic rule that never fails is: Don't go on a date looking like you star in TOWIE or a body builder covered in Cuprinol.

My Mum's response to article: 'It's all about personality isn't it?' And that is why I love my Mother.

Carol Vorderman Pays The Price Of Having Fun

Silver Dress: 2011 Blue Dress: Now

Countdown Carol has gone up a dress size!!!!!!! Bloody heck, who doesn't go up and down in dress sizes these day. The poor woman has gone from a 10 to a 12! O-M-G. What an ordeal. The woman, who is very much in middle age, is having too much fun socializing and has put on some weight in the last year- Good for you woman, but you still have a GORGEOUS figure for your age which some ladies would kill for! Shut up.. O and she wants an eyelift.. And to think I used to admire her for being smart.

Women REALLY Don't like Beards.

A study has found that women really don't like beards. They can make men appear older and more aggressive. I am going to keep this fairly short.. Some men look good with a beard, and some just look like a pimped up tramp.Take Brad here; he looks like a young Gandalf, and not in a good way. A man ALWAYS looks good in a beard when it is nicely tamed and cared for. Not many women want a man to look like Joaquin Phoenix when he took that 'year out' with Casey Affleck. 

 Joaquin Phoenix

But that is the other thing- women, and men, all have different tastes. A good friend of mine loves a good stubble on her partner, whilst I stand fairly neutral, having dated no one that could achieve much stubble let alone beard. But I still reside under my mothers teaching that personality matters that little bit more than a beard.

Tuesday, 6 March 2012

Being Naked Isn't Illegal

After a lot of recommendations, I finally watched My Daughter the Teenage Nudist that was aired on Channel 4 in January.

There was endless amounts of boobs, bums and most heartwarmingly, confidence. Through the programme, you meet Mollie, an 18 year old who wants to become a naturist as well as Alex, a 20-something who lives as a 'I'm not a naturist but..' she loves being naked. 


You find Mollie and Alex meeting new people from the naturist culture, including Daryl who works for Young British Naturists to recruit new members. What I found really bizarre, was his attitude towards his body. There is no denying that he was comfortable being a naturist, living on a barge in the nude and only closing his doors when his neighbour passes by. But why would a naturist, happily with flaunting his genitalia bother with a sac,back and crack waxing? It seems very vain to go to through a fairly uncomfortable waxing in order to show off more flesh. Surely naturism is about accepting the body of it's natural state - I sure wouldn't bother trimming my bits to go hang out naked. But Daryl is an overly happy and confident chap, recruiting both Mollie and Alex to be members and all three attending an event in Wiltshire.

Although the documentary was not as in depth as it could have been, to try and expose some deeper thoughts and feelings, there were some great values that I took from watching.
Firstly, whilst trying to promote YBN, Alex went topless in public alongside Daryl. She waited until a policeman told her to put her top back on, to ask him about the difference between her exposing her torso and Daryl. She stated that her freedom is denied because her body causes some kind of offense. And Unfortunately it doesn't, it is worse in that it puts off potential new naturists because her body is so slim and perfect looking- as a young passer-by informs her. 

A great thing about being naturist, is that it does make you body aware and can enhance your confidence with yourself. One young man, whose name I have forgotten, used to suffer with body image problems, eating very little. And now, as a naturist, he has forgotten his problems from the past and accepted his body more for what it is: "Luke’s[his friend] comfortable with his body… it rubs off on you”. 

Mollie, the key figure in this journey, who is keen to carry on exploring the naturist way after meeting more of the naturist community. Whilst convincing her friend to explore the naked way of life, she adviced 'when can you ever say you have lived.' Her teenage spirit did not rub off on her friend who seemed to participate less in the events they attended. However, it could have been her parents frowning upon the idea that made her rethink about the way of life.

 It was inevitable that someone would state it, but I think it was Daryl who said that 'We are all humans at the end of the day'- which is true, we know what breasts, willies and fannys look like- people need to just accept that this is how people live, or at least want to. In an ideal world, we should all learn to love ourselves with clothes on or off, and accept that there are some people who simply just don't care what you see.